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Principle 5: Manage Conflict


Principle 4: Learn to Manage Conflict


Learn to manage conflict is one of the seven principles outlined in Dr. John Gottman's book, "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work". This principle emphasizes the importance of understanding and managing conflict in a healthy way in order to maintain a strong and successful relationship.

According to Dr. Gottman's research, conflict is a normal part of any relationship, and it's not the presence of conflict that is the problem, but rather how it's managed. Couples who know how to manage conflict in a healthy way are more likely to have a successful and fulfilling relationship.

In the "Learn to Manage Conflict" class, couples will learn specific strategies for managing conflict and improving communication in their relationship. These strategies include:

  1. Softening Startup: Starting a conversation in a non-accusatory, gentle way can help prevent arguments from escalating.

  2. Accepting Influence: Learning to accept your partner's perspective, even if you don't agree with it, can lead to a more productive and less confrontational conversation.

  3. De-escalating: When conflict starts to escalate, it's important to take a break and calm down before continuing the conversation.

  4. Repairing: Making repairs during and after a conflict can help rebuild trust and strengthen the relationship.

  5. Compromising: Finding a compromise that satisfies both partners is an essential part of managing conflict in a healthy way.

By learning and practicing these strategies, couples can improve their ability to manage conflict, reduce tension and frustration in their relationship, and increase intimacy and satisfaction. The "Learn to Manage Conflict" class provides practical tools and insights to help couples of all stages build a strong and fulfilling partnership.

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